Good night, sweet prince: And flights of angels sing thee to thy rest...
-William Shakespeare

It has been said, 'time heals all wounds.' I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone.
-Rose Kennedy

Wednesday, February 20, 2008

Yes, it can always get worse

My friend C, the one I mentioned before who joined our sinking boat, it got worse! Much, much worse!

Five days of laboring and finally Friday, she delivered her sweet little man, 7 inches and 149 grams. They opted not to name him “in case” they could give it a go again.

Well, Saturday, they had to do a D/C for retained placenta. In the process they realized they she had placenta accreta, which in the end meant if she was going to survive, not bleed to death, a total hysterectomy was needed.

So, now she doesn’t get the chance to try. My heart is broken for her and her family. So, yes, it can always get worse! If anything people who say, “it can’t get any worse” need to be corrected. To me this is a bit of hell on earth that we are walking through, to her it is a bigger hell on earth than mine.


c. said...

That is definitely worse, isn't it? I'm so sorry.

kalakly said...

Oh sweet Jesus. I hope her docs were right...and they didn't just take it out becuase it was the simple surgical answer, what a fucking nightmare.

Coggy said...

I'm sorry, that is so horrible. I remember reading something similar on a blog when I had just lost J and I thought exactly the same thing, it can always be worse.
I can't imagine what she is going through right now.

Carrie said...

Firstly, thank you so much for your supportive comments. It is much appreciated.

I'm so sorry about your friend.

I'm also sorry that you've had such a terrible journey. Life is just so unfair at times.

CLC said...

That is horrible. I am so sorry for her. You are right- things can be worse. It's hard to keep that in persepective.

Sorry, but I am tagging you. Don't need any more bad luck. See my blog.

Antigone said...

Sounds like lawsuit material to me.

Depressionista said...

I'm so sorry to read about your friend. How incredibly sad.

This might be obvious or sound bossy but it's what came to my heart when I read this...I hope your friend knows that it's never to late to name her son.

You are right. It can always get worse. I don't tempt fate with that phrase anymore.

Beautiful Curve said...

Isn't that the most f*cked up can always get worst?
Its a sad reality. My grandmother used to say, no matter how bad things get, we always have to be grateful to God, because it could be worst.
She's right.

I am so very sorry for your friend.